Somehow, that dog managed to pull the cord on it (its new by the way) into the crate w/him and shred the cord to pieces. My husband is yelling @ me saying the dog could do no wrong and I told him either the dog goes or I do (I own the home primarily, by the way).
He is upset, saying I shouldnt be that way and the dog is more important than me. So, should the dog be treated with a "he can do no wrong" attitude? This is sadly not the 1st time the dog destroyed something and my husband just pats him on the back. YES! He has been through obedience training. Alot of good that did.
Update:
My
grandma has been saying the dog needs to be removed from the home
promptly (ie- sent to the city pound) she absolutely hates the dog and
he is a nuisance.
Update 2:
Our
shelters have a very high placement rate with a rescue that regularly
pulls from them. Furthermore, my grandma always gives her opinion and
she is perfectly within her legal rights to voice this opinion. She also
tells me to kick my husband out too.
Answer
Jay:
Who left the vacuum out. That's the person who is at fault.
Charle:
So,
here's the deal about dog training - if a dog does something bad, like
chews a cord up, you actually have to catch him in the act. If you
catch him AFTER, correcting him will be interpreted for something else,
guaranteed.
That's why people who see that a dog messed on the floor an
hour or so previous and rub their nose in it don't get housetrained
dogs - they get dogs that don't like to rub their noses in poop.
You're about to have a baby, so here's the baby reference: Dogs are toddlers, no doubt about that. Would you hit a 2 year old for pulling your hair? Because... that will teach a toddler to pull hair AND to hit people.
You're about to have a baby, so here's the baby reference: Dogs are toddlers, no doubt about that. Would you hit a 2 year old for pulling your hair? Because... that will teach a toddler to pull hair AND to hit people.
No, you don't coddle them, but the best thing to do - for
toddlers AND dogs - is to distract them with something good, then praise
them when they choose the right thing. Dog chewing your shoe? Present
a dog toy, and as soon as the dog picks it up, it's OMG YOU ARE SUCH A
GOOD, SMART BOY!!!! Kid eating the remote control? Give them crayons
and a paper to color... OMG YOU ARE SUCH A GOOD, SMART BOY, LETS PLAY
WITH TOYS MORE!
But really, the "husband is choosing me over the dog" is childish, leave it for the kids to say, not an adult that is going to become a parent very soon. And what other advise does Grandma give? Did grandma marry this guy, or did you? My grandma gives advice all the time - we thank her and leave it at that - advice.
But really, the "husband is choosing me over the dog" is childish, leave it for the kids to say, not an adult that is going to become a parent very soon. And what other advise does Grandma give? Did grandma marry this guy, or did you? My grandma gives advice all the time - we thank her and leave it at that - advice.
Not a command. Plus, grandmas only
get one view of a relationship - and if you don't give her a good view
(aka it's either "oooh grandma he's so romantic, guess where he took me
last weekend???" or it's "omg grandma he won't even take the trash out
ONCE!"), and that's all they can go off of. If you don't want to be a
single mom, then you need to start acting like a partner to your
husband.
Park:
Young
dogs will destroy things, that's part of dog ownership. I'm not a fan
of dogs either, but I assume at some point you agreed to allowing the
dog in the house. Ultimatums like that never go well. The dog isn't
asking him to chose. When given an ultimatum I usually hold.
What you are doing amounts to a form of blackmail and he's just reacting to that rather than "choosing a dog over you."
What you are doing amounts to a form of blackmail and he's just reacting to that rather than "choosing a dog over you."
bentley:
If this dog has only chewed up two things and is only 1 year old, then
this is a great dog. Loosing a few things to chewing is normal for a
pup.
If the two of you can agree, you can try to find another home for
the dog, but it is irresponsible to drop any pet at the pound. This is
not your grandma's dog.. why did you even mention that? I am a dog
lover and would fight with anyone that said we need to kill the dog
(city Pound)
batten:
You're both completely ridiculous.
Your husband is irresponsible to leave stuff out for the dog to chew. He's also irresponsible to not follow through with the training. "The dog can do no wrong" is incorrect, but the dog is also an animal and doesn't know any better. He will only be as good as the training you guys give him.
You're cruel and irresponsible to say that you should just give away a family member. Especially because you guys are too lazy to put your stuff away and properly train the dog. You're clearly one of those "Oooh I'm pregnant so the animals have to go" people - shame on you.
Put your shiiitt away, train the dog better, and take him to a different trainer. And go to counseling, because your marriage is in trouble if he outright told you that the dog is more important than you. It isn't the dog's fault that you guys are shiiitty people.
Your husband is irresponsible to leave stuff out for the dog to chew. He's also irresponsible to not follow through with the training. "The dog can do no wrong" is incorrect, but the dog is also an animal and doesn't know any better. He will only be as good as the training you guys give him.
You're cruel and irresponsible to say that you should just give away a family member. Especially because you guys are too lazy to put your stuff away and properly train the dog. You're clearly one of those "Oooh I'm pregnant so the animals have to go" people - shame on you.
Put your shiiitt away, train the dog better, and take him to a different trainer. And go to counseling, because your marriage is in trouble if he outright told you that the dog is more important than you. It isn't the dog's fault that you guys are shiiitty people.
Hearth-O-Gold:
This is not the dogs fault, the dog is being its normal puppy self. I
suggest that you are being hormonal and overreacting, BUT your husband
should be more sensitive to your needs. A puppy and a pregnancy at the
same time was a bad idea all around. BUT it's not the dogs fault this
is happening.
Miss J:
The dog is young and lacking in training and exercise/mental stimulation.
It's not the dog's fault that is has been allowed to destroy things and has become a nuisance. It's you and your husband's fault for failing to properly care for the dog.
It's not the dog's fault that is has been allowed to destroy things and has become a nuisance. It's you and your husband's fault for failing to properly care for the dog.
