We talked about it, and my mom said I could take her previously. She is a year old golden doodle. I'm the one who spends a lot of time with her, trained her, takes her on walks, ect. I am extremely close to Scarlett (dog). I was home schooled and didn't have siblings so I spent virtually 24/7 with her.
I have trouble sleeping if I can't hear her snoring near me. She's actually curled up in my lap sleeping right now. I'm also worried about her because when I go places I take her with me. When I leave her she always just stares out the window until I come home.
What can I do to get my mom to let me bring her? My mom and dad love the dog, but spend way less time with her. They don't even care if she's left home alone all day. On a side note:
We are breeding her next month, and my mom wants to keep two of Scarlett's puppies, so I don't know why she want's Scar so badly.
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LakeLady:
Just tell your mother you decided not to go without your dog. She's just trying to send you to college to learn t be independent and she's manipulating you. Dig in your heels. She'll give in. That or go to a nearby college. That could also be what mom is going for but you can let her win that one.
Irwin:
I went through the same thing and it sucks. My dog layed in my bed with my every night and I hated being without her. I love my dog so much and sometimes I cry because I miss her so much in college. I really wanted to bring her to college with me, but I couldn't for a various amount of reasons. Honestly, college is nothing like high school and you're constantly busy and you really don't have time for a dog your freshman year.
You need to make a list of all the responsibilities that come with having a dog.
1.) will she have a yard/a way to go to the bathroom?
2.) can you afford to take care of her? Think about vet bills..
3.) will you have time?
The best thing I would tell you is to go to college, live in a dorm your first year and try to see what happens and then if you can't live without her find a place that allows dogs the next year.
I know you don't want to leave her, but unless your parents are evil, I'm sure that they will take good care of her.
Tigler:
no one year old female dog should be bred. Ask your mother whether she would think it is a good idea if you would decide to have children at say 13 years old....
In addition your dog is a mutt, and mutts are a dime a dozen, so there is not really a point to breeding more mutts. Read up on hip and elbow dysplasia, nobody nice would try to breed dogs which are destined to have pain moving and I bet your dog has not been tested for it.
It depends on your college whether you have to stay on student housing for the first year or whether you can go to a private rental where you could have a dog.
You might find it easily overwhelming going to college and care for your dog, though it does sound your dog could help you with the change as well. But if you can't find a place to live which also accepts dogs the whole question is purely academic.
Loki:
Okay, look, I think you've gotten the gist of what everyone thinks about the breeding and I want to come back to that in a minute because I have a suggestion to help with your mother, but first to answer your actual question.
You've done the hard part and have gotten housing that will allow for you not only to take your dog with you, but that is close enough to Camp Bow Wow (doggy day care, I assume?) for her not to be stuck by herself while you are in class.
She knows those people already and that may be part of what is bothering your mother. As others have noted, in the helpful bits between rants, it'll be a big change for your dog and you. If your mom is worried that it will be hard on Scarlett, that may be where her reluctance is coming from.
Considering you're entering the adult world (and I don't mean that to sound condescending), sit down with your mom and discuss what is holding her back from your original agreement.
Take her to visit this camp place so she can see that the dog will be happy and if all else fails, her ownership is in your name. Put your foot down. Remind her that you had an agreement and that she needs to honor it.
Now, back to the other thing. I'm not going to lecture, but you said neither you nor your dad want to breed the dog and yet she's yours. Time to be an adult again.
Go search information on $$$ for emergency c-sections, what happens if a pup is retained in the birth canal, and everything that can possibly be expensive when a pregnancy goes wrong.
Then, as another person said, look up information on litter mate aggression. Present this to both of your parents. If it doesn't sway your mother, it might nudge your father a little more firmly to your side and allow for her to be spayed like you want rather than bred.
Hope that helps.
Marlen:
It's not fair to the dog to go to college with you. You have no idea what your schedule will be. You have no idea what your residence will be like. You have no idea how the dog will get exercise or relieve itself. You're just thinking about yourself.
Especially if you're going to breed the dog, it would be irresponsible to yank the dog out of its familiar environment and stuck in a place somewhere in a kennel where nobody's around all day.
Especially if you were home schooled and your best friend is a dog, you need some socialization. The best place for your dog is your home where you will come back to visit. The worst place for the dog will be at college.
Maya:
I'm the person who wrote this question and I can't add on mobile. Here's the deal, my rent house (Yes house, not dorm, not apartment, house with a yard) is near Camp Bow Wow where I sent her as a puppy to be socialize. I checked with the land lord, I can bring my dog. Even if I weren't accepted into said university, I was going to be in the city.
We are breeding her once before we spay her. My mom wants to keep two of her puppies as PETS. We already have the male picked out and have socialized them together. I care highly for my dog, and have checked with other students getting the same degree what their 7 MONTH schedule was like. I'm not leaving my dog in a kennel for hours.
As mentioned when I have to leave more than 3 hours she will go to Camp Bow Wow since she will be spayed by the time I have to leave. I have been planning for this since we got her so I've checked everything. I wouldn't put my dog in a place she didn't deserve.
